Starting therapy when you don't know where to start

Sometimes people arrive able to name exactly what's wrong. Just as often, they can't — only that something feels off, heavy, stuck. If that's you, I want you to know: you don't need the right words to begin. 'I'm not sure, I just don't feel like myself' is a perfectly good place to start.

You don't have to have a reason

There's a quiet myth that therapy is only for crises — that you need a Big Enough Problem to earn a seat. You don't. Feeling low, anxious, numb, or simply worn down is reason enough. So is wanting to understand yourself a little better.

What the first step can look like

It can be as small as sending a two-line message. From there, most therapists — me included — offer a free call so you can get a feel for us before committing to anything. No pressure, no obligation; just a conversation to see if it's a fit.

The hardest part is almost always the reaching out. Once you've done that, you'll usually find the rest is gentler than you feared.